Links and Stuff

A handful of things that you need to know, hear, see, or read...

- Tonight I will probably put up a single post that I will update throughout Molly's surgery and hospital stay.  I will try to keep updates at the top of the page with time stamps on the page so you can read what has happened as they happened.  The hospital says it has wifi throughout, so being online and live-blogging the next few days shouldn't be much of a problem.

- Please start immediately downloading Stereogum's tribute to Radiohead's OK Comupter.  It's free and includes some great bands like Dave Bazan's Black Cloud, Cold War Kids, and Twilight Sad.  It's not Radiohead, but it's still fun.  By the way, they aren't going to leave these free mp3's up forever so grab them asap.  Couldn't wait for Music Monday on this one.

- JJ Abrams.  1-18-08.  Nuff said.

- Drew Goodmanson on The Gospel Awakening (file through his posts on triperspectivalism too).

- John Piper on Why We Should Have Courage to Speak About Christ.

- Gary Rohrmayer on Sharpening Your Evangelistic Skills.

- I don't know if I've mentioned it before, bu there is now a version of 2 Ways to Live for kids

- Darrin Patrick's The Journey Church has done a service by providing this Keller-oriented Religion and the Gospel.

Music Monday 7.9.07

Dsc_001020070709This is a special Music Monday as I'm unable to do anything without thinking about my wife and surgery this Friday.  So here are some songs I've been playing because they in some way make me think of how much I love Molly.  Some of the songs are how I feel in full.  Some are slightly out of context of our relationship, but maybe a section of the song hits me.  Hope you enjoy.

"Shameless" by Garth Brooks  (This is our song, a song we danced to in college as we started dating.  Still love the song.)

I have never let anything have this much control over me
I work too hard to call my life my own
And Ive made myself a world and its worked so perfectly
But its your world now, I cant refuse
Ive never had so much to lose
Oh, Im shameless.

"Shelter" by Ray LaMontagne (Love the idea of protection.)

When all of this around us fall over
I tell you what we're gonna do
You will shelter me my love
And I will shelter you
I will shelter you

"If It's the Beaches" by The Avett Brothers (A bit out of context, but I love the ending.  I have watched this video 5 times at least in the last week.)

If it's the beaches
If it's the beaches' sands you want
Then you will have them
If it's the mountains' bending rivers
Then you will have them
If it's the wish to run away
Then I will grant it
Take whatever what you think of
While I go gas up the truck
Pack the old love letters up
We will read them when we forget why we left here

Tour de France 2007

GeorgeThe Prologue of the Tour is underway as I type (follow it here).  It takes place in London.  Will doping continue to detract from this fantastic sporting event?  I hope not.  It's three of my favorite weeks of the year.

I follow most of the event on Sportsline's Tour page, and their live updates found here.  I'm going to be checking in on Versus.com as well, which seems to have a lot of good info.  It seems that Vs is the new Outdoor Life Network, which televised the Tour.  Now on Vs there should be live updates, video clips, and more.  Also check out the TdF live tracker.

Phriday is for Photos 6.6.07

Taking Flight

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Knees

A few photos for you.  The first is a skateboarder in our church parking lot during a picnic.  I used a panning technique to keep him in better focus as the background blurs more.  The second is obviously some Woodstock, IL fireworks.  The third is my youngest, Danny, who is the cutest kid on the planet.

Surgery Date Set: July 13th

Molly's surgery date is July 13th, but let me know how we got there.

Monday we received a call from Dr. Frim's nurse with a surgery date of August 1st.  That seemed so far off, but we didn't have much of a choice.  Dr. Frim, as a pediatric neurosurgeon, is only allowed a couple of days a month for adult neurosurgery.  There was just no other time.  His nurse told us they were trying to find another time sooner, but wasn't able to.  We began to hope for a cancellation that might open a door for an earlier surgery.

Another issue with August 1st is that Dr. Frim would be there for a day following the surgery, but would be out of town after that.  That means the other neurosurgeons would be there for the rest of the recovery time.  That was acceptable (we liked all of them), but not ideal.  Having Dr. Frim perform the surgery asap was first priority, so the recovery issues could flex.

I emailed Dr. Frim's nurse asking about the details and possibilities of an earlier date.  Molly was a bit depressed about another month of struggles.  She responded with some details.  But she also said she saw that I'm a pastor (I guess from my email address) and said this...

Are you a pastor?  I just returned from a mission trip in Reynosa, Mexico. God is calling me to mission work.  I’m going to work about 6 more years until my youngest is done with school.

Lets trust God, he knows the best date for Molly’s surgery.

That was Monday evening.

Tuesday his nurse emailed us with a new surgery date of Friday, July 13th, the original surgery date Molly had a few weeks back.  That means we now have the earliest surgery date, the doctor we originally wanted who is a specialist in the field, and we believe Dr. Frim will also be there for the entire recovery time.  Aren't sure about that last one, but we haven't heard otherwise.  We are very encouraged by this news, and by God's continued mercy.

So we think the schedule will go like this.  A week from today we will be driving to Pontiac, IL to drop of the kids with my brother's family.  We will come back home on Wednesday (11th) evening to get a good night's rest.  Thursday we aren't sure about.  Maybe we will stay in Woodstock another night or maybe we will go into Chicago to stay at a hotel.  We think we will have to be to the hospital early in the morning, but we won't know the surgery time until Thursday the 12th.

Hospital schedule: Molly will be in ICU for 24 hours (overnight) and then 3-4 more days of recovery.  I will likely sleep in the ICU visitor's (waiting) room the first night.  I don't think I'll feel like leaving.  I might spend the next night at home, or a hotel, or maybe even in Molly's room if they let me.  I don't know if she will have a private room or not. 

We think that we will have a family member drive our kids to our house to meet us sometime after we know we will be there.  We hope they will be able to come to the hospital and visit as Molly recovers.

Enough for now.  The idea of "independence" takes on a new meaning for us this 4th of July.  Hopefully the surgery will go well and Molly's symptoms will greatly decrease.  Thanks for praying.

One last thing.  We just found out this week that our refrigerator/freezer is dead/dying.  In the midst of all of this we are now trying to get a new one.  Fortunately, since we live in a parsonage, our church will be paying. :)  But it's still a headache looking for one.

2nd (and 3rd) Opinion Update

Here's what happened at our epic meeting at the University of Chicago yesterday.  It was a long day but a good day for us.

We were seated in our appointment room at 3:30pm, within 30 minutes of Molly's appointment time, so we thought there was no way we be there until 8pm as they suggested was possible.  Yeah, we left at 7:35pm.  Way early! :)  It again took nearly 3 hours to get to the hospital.  At least I didn't make any wrong turns this time.

We first met with Dr. Yassari.  Who is Dr. Yassari?  Another neurosurgeon who we didn't know Molly would see.  He went through the entire exam just as we did with Yamini, checking every movement and symptom afresh.  He was funny too.  After a long visit with Yassari, he came to the same basic conclusions about the Chiari and felt surgery was needed.  He left the room and said he would consult with Dr. Frim and they would return together.  They did, over 1 1/2 hours later.  Wowwy, that's a long wait after a long exam. 

Frim By the way, Dr. Frim is the big cheese.  This is the guy we originally wanted to do the surgery way back just after the diagnosis.  He is the guy our neurologist highly recommended as the expert/specialist on Chiari.  "David Frim, MD, PhD, chief of pediatric neurosurgery and an expert in congenital anomalies of the nervous system," which means Chiari (via).  And we have come to understand that getting an expert at pediatric Chiari on the case is a huge bonus.

So Frim comes in with Yassari and a surgical resident (can't remember that dude's name, but he looked really smart and didn't really say anything).  Frim took Molly through the whole dealio again: tests for balance, numbness, and other symptoms.  He asked questions about the extent of the problem, pain, and effect on life.   He looked at all the MRI film again and explained the details to us again.  These guys are thorough.  Frim told us all the symptoms are very consistent with Chiari, which was the thing that had us confused.  Confusion is totally gone.

Remember I said there were three basic reasons that surgery with Chiari is a must: drop attacks, a syrinx (spinal cyst), or swallowing issues.  Frim added a fourth, something about experiencing other neurological effects from Chiari.  When these larger problems aren't present then surgery may be offered but not required.  For example, the most common Chiari symptom is terrible headaches, migraines, etc.  Sometimes people will have headaches with no other major issues, so they simply manage the pain and press on.  I've even met a person who has/does this.

But Molly has some of the neurological effects Frim mentioned, including problems with finishing thoughts, remembering things, and mental overload when being spoken to.  Frim felt this basically would qualify her for the more necessary camp in surgery, even though they felt surgery was important for the balance and weakness issues as well.

Then Dr. Frim told us that he would be happy to do the surgery if we want him to.  Now get this.  We originally tried to get with Frim but were told we couldn't even have a surgical consultation until August 30th.  So Yamini took on Molly's case instead, and that is what got our foot in the door with Frim.  Our meeting with Frim took only two days after they decided it would be best to meet with him.  Good stuff.  Providence.

Truth is, this is as good as we've felt since the diagnosis.  We are really thankful for the large amount of time they have spent making sure they understand Molly's Chiari.  We are totally confident in Frim and his expertise.  We feel like the fog we were in has lifted completely.  He even said that he felt good that the surgery would relieve "all or some of her symptoms."  Bout time someone said that. :)  We know that there is still plenty of chance that some of the symptoms may remain, but Frim said that because Molly's Chiari is sizable, the odds of a good surgical result are very good.  Great news.

So what's next?

1. We have a call in to Frim's nurse to schedule surgery.  He said it shouldn't be too long to get Molly in.  Maybe a few weeks???  Recovery will be slow and painful, a full 24 hours in the ICU after the surgery and probably another 3-4 days in the hospital.  He showed where the scar will be on Molly, and it will be almost completely above her neck hairline (less visible).   We also discussed accommodation options for me while she is in the hospital and a handful of other things.  Maybe I'll talk about these at a later date.

2. We have canceled our Mayo trip.  We were all prepared to go, but we looked at each other after leaving the hospital and knew that Dr. Frim was the way to go.  We were downright giddy on the drive home.  Chiari is not so much about right diagnosis and making the right decision about fixing it.  At least not in the less complicated cases like Molly's.  It's about having the right people do the work when it's necessary.  Frim is the guy who writes the articles in the journals on this stuff.  Plus, we have had three different neurosurgeons do complete exams on Molly with complete agreement on what needs to be done (and they have consulted with others at the University of Chicago as well as outside, all in agreement).  We are so thankful to know (finally) exactly what the deal is, what needs to be done, and have a plan to take care of business. 

We'll keep you up to date when we know a surgical date or if anything changes.  We are thankful for all of your prayers. 

Brewing Battle

Christianity Today has a short article recapping the situation with Missouri Baptists: Brewing Battle.  Nothing terribly new or informative to those who have been keeping up, but concise with some helpful external links at the end for those needing to catch up.

The policy addresses an ongoing SBC debate. Baptistshave championed alcohol abstinence since the late 1800s, but a growing number want the SBC to reexamine the issue, said Timothy George, dean of Beeson Divinity School.

"There is growing discontent, people saying that we shouldn't be mandating things that aren't spoken clearly about in Scripture," George said. "It's hard to argue that the Bible requires total abstinence."

Keller on Idolatry

(New link to Keller's "Talking About Idolatry in a Postmodern Age.")

I can't find a way to link to it directly, but you can read Tim Keller's "Talking About Idolatry in a Postmodern Age" at the Gospel Coalition site.  I don't think I have it linked elsewhere.

Start on the Gospel Coalition articles page, click on "authors," click on "Tim Keller" under the "Contemporary Authors" section.

Personally, I don't understand why sites are built so you can't link directly to everything.  But at least it's there.  Maybe they will eventually add permalinks to everything.

UPDATE: They have added url's to all the articles. Good work guys. "Talking About Idolatry in a Postmodern Age."

Family Health Update

Ugh.  Important news...

1. Molly's surgery has been postponed.  When? Dunno.  They wanted to cancel until we talked with the main neurosurgeon at the University of Chicago, Dr. Frim.

2. We are meeting with Dr. Frim tomorrow (Thursday).  We just found out Tuesday, the same day (I think) we had the surgery cancelled.  Why did they cancel the surgery with Yamini when the Frim meeting would happen so soon?  No honking idea.  Are they planning on Frim doing the surgery?  Are they unsure of something they haven't explained to us yet?  Are they just trying to make us MORE frustrated?  Dunno.  But our appointment is at 3pm tomorrow and we are about to find out.

3. Dr. Frim's nurse told us he is one of the slowest doctors, so that we may not leave our 3pm appointment until like 8pm.  Say what?  Yep.  So that means we leave at noon tomorrow and will arrive home maybe past 10pm or so.  Fortunately one of our babysitters isn't working tomorrow and can help all day.  Nice.

4. We are still going to Mayo Clinic on the 2nd of July.  We will take the kids to my family in Pontiac, IL on Saturday, come back to Woodstock so I can preach on Sunday, and then head up to Mayo.  We will be there, according to their information, for 2-4 days.  So if it lasts more than 2 days we will be stuck there over the 4th of July and have to wait until the 5th for more tests, meetings, or whatever they require. 

Dsc_001220070627_2 5. Just when you thought our family has had enough, the hits just keep on coming.  Elijah busted his head open today.  Just when I sat down to start doing a whole pile of work, I got a call and had to rush home.  It seems the dresser in our room jumped in front of him when he was being chased around our bed by his brothers.  So the next three hours were spent at the Emergency Room looking for some staples to get that scalp back together.  Seven staples later he was just fine.  And let me just say that I didn't see one tear from my six year old, even as I held him tight and the doctor treated him like a paper product.  After a good initial cry when it first happened, he was pretty tough and even found time to root on the Cubbies.

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