Our kids have been taught to obey us the first time we say something, and they do pretty well. We get a lot of comments from friends and other parents about it, usually with some surprise at how obedient they are. They sometimes assume our kids just happen to have calmer personalities than theirs. That we just got lucky. Truth is, we've been blessed to be around parents who have parented well and taught us by example. You can parent better. You can and should ask your kids to obey the first time you say something.
One thing we've changed as our kids are getting a bit older is an "appeal." Now when we ask for their obedience, they are allowed to ask for an appeal, meaning they can make a request to delay obedience. It's working out really well. It keeps them from being frustrated when they have something they are trying to finish.
The call to dinner is a perfect example. Usually when the call comes from mom they come running. It's food, after all. But occasionally a kid will yell from the basement, "Mom, can I appeal?" And then they give a reason and mom will ok or not. If you don't do this, I recommend it. It helps kids who have growing responsibilities and who are maturing in wisdom to make arguments for how they can obey without hurting something else they are working on.
But it doesn't always work out. Last night mom called dinner and Sarah (13) said, "Mom, can I oppose?" Mom, said, "No, you may NOT oppose! But you may appeal." :)
Do you have any parenting tips to share for kids of similar age? Comment below.
Have you heard of Mumford & Sons? :) Certainly one of the hottest bands in the world for people who like good music Sign No More is still only $7.99. They are also known for their great live performances, and they played two songs on Jimmy Kimmel last week. Here's "Roll Away Your Stone." Also go watch "The Cave."
Facebook friend, Billy Driver, recommended Hey Marseilles music to me. I knew the name, but couldn't place the music. After watching this video I became a fan. So good. Hey Marseilles album is To Travels & Trunks. You may want to pick it up after watching this. Thanks Billy!
This was a favorite playground ride as a kid. It's existed a lot longer than me, and now my kids get to play on it. That's Elijah in the first photo. While you can photoshop blur into a picture, this is just as it was taken. I was riding the other side and my camera was moving at the same speed & direction as E's head while the rest of him wasn't. Pretty cool. The second pic from left to right is Sarah (13 1/2), Daniel (7 1/2), Jack (12) and Elijah (10). See all my photography.
Jonathan Dodson, who wrote Fight Clubs, has a series of posts on leading Gospel conversations. I encourage you to read them and use them as you bring the Gospel to your neighbors. Jonathan bases the series on David Powlison’s counseling mantra: 1) Listen to Their Story 2) Empathize with Their Story 3) Redemptively Retell Their Story.
I received an email more than 3 weeks ago from the violinist of a band called Her Name Is Calla. Sophie found Reformissionary when searching for Shearwater and thought I would like their sound. My first thought was to get to it someday, just out of courtesy. After all, what are the odds that a band I've never heard of will randomly email me and I'll like their band because they think they sound like an awesome band? Not likely.
Today I was working through my inbox, trying to get to stuff I've forgotten was there. I followed a link and clicked play. WOW! I'm floored. A magical experience. I want you to be floored too. Here's the first song I heard, "Pour Some Oil" (song only, no video). If you are thinking you'll check it out someday...don't wait like I did. This is that day. Trust me.
I have the feeling this won't be the last word from me on Her Name Is Calla.
Sufjan Stevens on his new fantastic album, The Age of Adz, in comparison to his previous masterpiece, Illinoise: "I was getting tired of that self-conscious, rambling psychobabble. I got really sick of myself and my own flawed, epic approach to everything." (via)
Glen Hansard plays "Paper Cup." Everything this guy does is good.
I have my Man Card handy just in case someone calls that into question. But here we go. I've never watched an episode of Glee. I've only ever caught it on TV once, and that was this song. I think it's a remarkable reworking of The Beatles' "I Want To Hold Your Hand." It's a fun, famous pop song made into an emotional dedication. Some of this is sorta hard to watch as, you know, it's a bit cheesy. But I really like what they did to the song.
If you read my music posts even occasionally you probably know of my love of all things Delta Spirit. Both of their first two albums are outstanding: Ode To Sunshine (2008) | History From Below (2010). They recently appeared on Jools Holland playing one of my favorite songs, "Bushwick Blues."